The 7 Keys to Choosing the Right Partner

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How do you know if you are in the right relationship?

Keep these aspects in mind to assess whether a particular relationship is right for you.

Have you ever spent time in a relationship that didn't give you what you really wanted? Surely you have asked yourself "what am I doing here?".

Many people have had the experience of finding themselves in relationships that don't make much sense, not understanding how they got there and still not understanding how to stay in them.

In this article, you will find the 7 keys to choosing a partner that will help you assess if you are with the right person for you.

Work on self-awareness

Before entering into a relationship, it is advisable to do our self-research homework and build a healthy relationship with those who are with us at all times.

Be very clear about who we are and the characteristics of our personality, both positive and negative, knowing our tastes well and what we base our beliefs on.

Learning to manage our emotions by understanding everything that affects us, what we do not tolerate and therefore we are not willing to negotiate. We have to clarify everything we want and don't want in a couple.

We have to give ourselves the time and the opportunity to cultivate self-esteem, confidence, and respect for ourselves, because what love and comfort can I give and make the other feel if I don't have it with me?

Reflect on shared values

It is known that the pillars of a relationship are based on love, respect, trust, and assertive communication; yes, they are the values that guide a healthy relationship, so we must compare our values with those of the other person and assess if they fit.

Of course, where love exists and we act out of love, the person next to us will be impregnated with its fragrance, the affection, attention, tenderness, and details that it brings with it, even if we speak and act out of love for ourselves.

Consequently, the person next to us will also receive it and feel loved, safe and confident.

Respect for individual ideas and spaces is fundamental, nothing makes us feel more fulfilled in a relationship than having the feeling of freedom and confidence to be ourselves and to be able to enjoy separate plans.

Measure the degree of attraction

Another area to take into account when choosing our partner is attraction, the one that unites us from the first moment and that makes us look at the other with emotion.

In that physical form with detachment from their qualities, when speaking, when moving, when walking, when eating, how it smells, and everything that makes us feel the chemical spark and say: this person has something, I like this person!

This is an important part of the future relationship because she is going to be involved in the couple's sexual environment, and no, the sexual life is not going to depend entirely on the spark continuing to be as intense as at the beginning, but it is undeniable that we must like our partner or we will not want to be with her.

Practice closing your eyes and thinking about that person without their physical form, think about what they say, how they say it, think about their sense of humor and how they react to unexpected situations, so we know if you really like the person they are. that or not

Pay attention to preferences

It is convenient to reflect on the tastes we have in common because it is one of the topics that keeps the couple active, sharing moments and creating memories.

Gastronomic trends, music, hobbies, activities, sports, dance, types of content that we consume through reading and the media, etc.

All this makes up the orchestra with which we write our songs, from here are born the moments we share where we have fun and become part of why we like to be with that person.

Learn about beliefs

Another important issue to consider is the beliefs we have about things.

What is inside our heads constitutes our mental structure; We must be clear about where our ideas about religion, work, about political position come from, what the relationship as a couple and family means for us, about raising children and their education.

In addition to our position in relation to the planet we inhabit and what makes it up in general.

In the community of beliefs with our partner, the stability of the relationship will be established, those basic beliefs on which we are going to build it and probably start a family.

Think about how you both see the world

Without a doubt, the way we see the world conditions the way we act and react to it and the stimuli of it.

If we see it as a harmonious or hostile place, if we like it or not and how we feel inhabiting our space in it. The way we perceive it influences the attitude we develop on a daily basis in different circumstances.

Observe how the person with whom we want to establish a relationship (or with whom we already have one) reacts and behaves.

The indicator is the way you act, express yourself and relate to others and daily situations, if you are always offended, complain, and victimize yourself, creating an irritating environment, or if, on the contrary, you live the flavor of life and seek roads, get ahead and put resilience into practice by generating a pleasant climate.

This shows us the climate of the sea where our relationship will constantly navigate.

Appreciate the differences

Detecting strong differences over time will prevent us from entering or remaining in a difficult relationship, that is, one that compromises our well-being and our principles.

No, opposites do not always attract.

All kinds of relationships, both family and professional, friendship and partner; From experience, we realize that being with people with whom we don't have much in common, especially in cohabitation, can make a relationship boring or toxic.

There will be differences, it is true, those that make us laugh and make the relationship humorous and fun.

In addition, for those that we do not like so much and can bother us, we have to learn to accept differences with intelligence and quality communication, know how to negotiate them, understand our limits and understand that they are differences that do not affect what is fundamental.

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