5 Signs That You're Ready to Start a New Relationship

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How to Know if I Should Start a New Relationship?

Venturing into a new romance after a breakup can be equal parts illusion and vertigo. It is not always easy to determine when the right time is and, for various reasons, we can rush into this decision, harming ourselves and the other person.

That's why we want to share some signs that you could start a new relationship.

It is true that each person is different and may need a variable time to recover and resume her love life. Even the type of relationship we live in and the way in which the break occurs will be decisive.

There are those who have let go emotionally long before they have let go physically, and they will have come part of the way. Even so, there are certain signs that must be present before thinking about returning to the world of dating.

1. You worked on your grieving process

Although many adhere to the popular saying that “one nail drives another nail”, this is not the way to go. It is essential to get through the grieving process, allow yourself to feel the loss, and experience the sadness, anger, and other negative emotions that accompany it.

We have to integrate this stage of our life and accept that it is over, to close the cycle and open the way to something new.

The time it takes to grieve can range from a few months to a few years. However, we will know that we have concluded when we no longer feel anguish or despair when thinking about our ex-partner or what we have experienced.

When sadness no longer invades us and we no longer feel like going back to the previous relationship, we will know that we are ready. In itself, when there is no rancor or resentment.

2. You have matured and learned

Many people leave a relationship to realize that the new bond they started is similar to the old one. Patterns are repeated, similar people are chosen and they face the same problems and difficulties.

This happens when we don't take the time to reflect on what we have experienced, introspect, and learn about it.

Before starting a new relationship, ask yourself what went wrong last time. It is not about looking for blame, but about becoming aware of our responsibility to build something better from now on.

Perhaps you chose your previous partner by mistake, you exceeded yourself and abandoned your individuality. Or, conversely, you may have been too cold, demanding, or controlling.

Even if the separation was due to the other party's infidelity, we can learn valuable lessons.

Don't skip this step. The quality of your next links will depend on the conclusions you reach.

3. You accept and enjoy loneliness

The fear of loneliness is one of the main reasons that lead us to start relationships when we are not ready.

For this reason, it is very convenient to take time to take care of yourself, practice self-care and build a life that pleases and fulfills you, without the need for the presence of another person to give it meaning.

When you feel comfortable in solitude, when you accept and embrace your singleness, when you don't fear that it will last over time because you don't feel incomplete, you will know that you are ready to share your happiness with someone else.

On the other hand, if you are afraid of being alone, uncomfortable, empty, or unacceptable, you may cling to someone who is not right for you.

4. You healed your wounds and your fears

A breakup is not just about getting over the other person's absence, but about dealing with the effect that relationship and its ending has had on us. It is possible that our self-esteem is damaged and we feel fragile, insufficient, or useless.

It is possible that we have developed certain fears, such as the fear of being betrayed, mistreated, or annulled in later relationships, as happened in this one.

It is even likely that we have generated some dysfunctional beliefs such as "all people are unfaithful and liars" or "love implies suffering and sacrifice".

All that emotional backpack will be an impediment to starting a new healthy and satisfying relationship. And that can lead us to self-sabotage.

So we have to release the weight first. Review your predominant thoughts and emotions and you will realize if this is your case.

5. You know what you want

Finally, before starting a new relationship, make sure you know exactly what you want.

Sometimes, unconsciously, we tend to look for people who are similar to our ex-partner or, on the contrary, who are diametrically opposed.

In fact, we need to take some time to reflect on what our needs and priorities are in a relationship. What are we looking for and what are we willing to offer? With that in mind, it will be much easier for us to make our relationships thrive.

Start a new relationship when you are ready, not when you are alone

In short, being single is not the only reason why we should look for a new partner. On the contrary, it is important that we carry out a process of healing and reflection, that we recover and find ourselves again before launching ourselves to share with others.

Wait until it's ready. In this way, you will avoid awkward and painful moments that can arise if you rush.

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