4 Traits of Arrogant People and How to Deal With Them

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How to identify an arrogant person

When we interact with others, we have to enter into a kind of tension game where we have to match our own perspective, on the one hand, and that of others, on the other.

And this is not always easy, since each individual has a series of different characteristics, beliefs, and ways of acting.

Arrogant people are those who do not consider the perspective of others, and this manifests itself both in their social life and in the discomfort they cause others.

We all know how difficult it is to deal with an arrogant person, so how can we recognize them?

Characteristics of arrogant people

When it comes to detecting signs that help us determine if we are dealing with an arrogant person or not, these traits can serve as a guide, although each individual is different.

1. They look down on others

Arrogant people have a special tendency to belittle what others do and criticize them.

This is a way of trying to gain "social value" in a relatively easy and simple way, but also cruel and cunning since the other is not there to defend themselves and the fact of bringing up their supposed imperfections creates the illusion that whoever is talking about they don't have this kind of defect.

2. They do not pay attention to the opinions of others

There is only one case in which especially arrogant people take into account how others react to what they say: if there is a clear rejection or disagreement. For the rest, the most common thing is that they react very little to the opinions and points of view of others.

3. They brag freely

Another type of behavior characteristic of arrogant people is to appeal to their merits or privileges too easily, although the course of the conversation does not require it because matters related to them are not discussed.

This is, in short, another of those ways in which people with these propensities try to make themselves important in their social lives.

In extreme cases, it is even possible to outright lie or exaggerate your exploits and not bring your flaws or imperfections to light.

4. They are cruel to the timidest

This is a way of creating a certain territoriality, showing everyone that you have no qualms about putting another person in a vulnerable situation, or even humiliating them, sometimes for no clear reason.

In this way, it is about establishing the idea that it is better to treat these arrogant people with deference.

It's a kind of blackmail: the importance given to them comes because that kind of treatment is imposed, not because they have really achieved a leadership position or anything like that.

How to deal with them?

When interacting with arrogant people, and assuming that your goal is not to engage with them to change them for the better (something that requires time, effort, and preparation that not everyone is willing to put on the table), but to make the dialogue as smooth as possible, you can follow these tips.

1. Not showing submission

Arrogant people tend to take advantage of the way others submit to them, something relatively common due to the haughty attitude of the former.

There are those who are automatically, spontaneously, and semi-consciously carried away by that dynamic of domination that the arrogant imposes in a conversation, and from the point of view of the party that "directs" that dialogue, this makes it possible to exploit this situation in their own way. benefit.

For this reason, it is important to be respected and express yourself assertively, without renouncing your own opinions and interests, no matter how much this implies going against them.

2. Avoid drama

Something typical of the arrogant is to create a narrative framework (that is, a communicative context to interpret some things and not others) in which any attempt to contradict them is seen as a disagreement, an eccentricity.

So, for example, when we don't treat them with deference or grant them special privileges, they react as if we've said something ridiculous to them, sometimes even with a touch of paternalism and condescension.

Given this, which can even be considered a form of gaslighting, it is necessary to take a position. The criteria that a person uses to relate to others are as valid as those of any other person.

It is good that the dialogue returns to its normal course, without showing that we are trying to right a wrong.

3. Get straight to the point

The best thing to counteract this pseudo-importance that the other person gives to himself is best to simply not give it to yourself.

Treat them like any other person, but don't be surprised by their attempts to get dramatically upset.

Maintaining a neutral demeanor and being courteous but assertive is always good in these instances, and if you find the conversation drifting off course, it's best to leave cordially.

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